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    Addiction to Pornography & Masturbation: Islamic Remedy

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    Internet Porn: Worse than Crack?


    By Ryan Singel | Also by this reporter Page 1 of 1


    11:00 AM Nov. 19, 2004 PT

    Internet pornography is the new crack cocaine, leading to addiction, misogyny, pedophilia, boob jobs and erectile dysfunction, according to clinicians and researchers testifying before a Senate committee Thursday.

    Witnesses before the Senate Commerce Committee's Science, Technology and Space Subcommittee spared no superlative in their description of the negative effects of pornography.


    Mary Anne Layden, co-director of the Sexual Trauma and Psychopathology Program at the University of Pennsylvania's Center for Cognitive Therapy, called porn the "most concerning thing to psychological health that I know of existing today."

    "The internet is a perfect drug delivery system because you are anonymous, aroused and have role models for these behaviors," Layden said. "To have drug pumped into your house 24/7, free, and children know how to use it better than grown-ups know how to use it -- it's a perfect delivery system if we want to have a whole generation of young addicts who will never have the drug out of their mind."

    Pornography addicts have a more difficult time recovering from their addiction than cocaine addicts, since coke users can get the drug out of their system, but pornographic images stay in the brain forever, Layden said.

    Jeffrey Satinover, a psychiatrist and advisor to the National Association for Research and Therapy of Homosexuality echoed Layden's concern about the internet and the somatic effects of pornography.

    "Pornography really does, unlike other addictions, biologically cause direct release of the most perfect addictive substance," Satinover said. "That is, it causes masturbation, which causes release of the naturally occurring opioids. It does what heroin can't do, in effect."

    The internet is dangerous because it removes the inefficiency in the delivery of pornography, making porn much more ubiquitous than in the days when guys in trench coats would sell nudie postcards, Satinover said.

    Sen. Sam Brownback (R-Kansas), the subcommitee's chairman, called the hearing the most disturbing one he'd ever seen in the Senate. Brownback said porn was ubiquitous now, compared to when he was growing up and "some guy would sneak a magazine in somewhere and show some of us, but you had to find him at the right time."

    The hearing came just days after a controversy over a sexually suggestive Monday Night Football ad that has many foreseeing a crackdown on indecency by the Federal Communications Commission.

    It is unclear what the consequences of Thursday's hearing will be since it was not connected to any pending or proposed legislation.

    Brownback, a conservative Christian, is also scheduled to be rotated off the sub-committee in the next session.

    When Brownback asked the panelists for suggestions about what should be done, the responses were mild, considering their earlier indictment of pornography. Several suggested that federal money be allocated to fund brain-mapping studies into the physical effects of pornography.

    Judith Reisman of the California Protective Parents Association suggested that more study of "erototoxins" could show how pornography is not speech-protected under the First Amendment.

    The panelists all agreed that the government should fund health campaigns to educate the public about the dangers of pornography. The campaign should combat the messages of pornography by putting signs on buses saying sex with children is not OK, said Layden.

    However, as the panelists themselves acknowledged, there is no consensus among mental health professionals about the dangers of porn or the use of the term "pornography addiction."

    Many psychologists and most sexologists find the concepts of sex and pornography addiction problematic, said Carol Queen, staff sexologist for the San Francisco-based, woman-owned Good Vibrations.

    Queen questioned the validity of the panel for not including anyone who thinks "pornography is not particularly problematic in most people's lives."

    Queen acknowledges she can name people who have compulsive and destructive behavior centered on pornography, but argues that can happen with other activities, such as gambling and shopping.

    Queen also criticized the methodology behind research showing that pornography stimulates the brain like drugs do, saying the research needs to take into account how sex itself stimulates the brain.

    "There's no doubt the brain lights up when sexually aroused," Queen said.

    Queen too would like to see more money devoted to research on sex, but thinks it is unlikely that researchers on either side of the divide are likely to receive large grants any time soon.

    Studies intended to show the harmful effects of pornography must contend with ethical rules prohibiting harm to human subjects, while sex researchers have a hard time getting any funding, unless their study is specifically HIV-related, according to Queen.

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    You know what the most profitable industry on the internet is? Let's just say that it's directly related to this thread.
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    Porn addiction-

    <TABLE height=20 cellSpacing=0 cellPadding=0 width="100%" border=0><TBODY><TR><TD width="50%">By Sheikh Ahmad Bin Hamad Al-Khalili

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    It is to be noted that logging in and browsing pornographic sites is forbidden because a Muslim is always commanded to lower his/her gaze, let alone give a loose rein to his/her hungry eye to look at the private parts of others. More importantly, such acts cause psychological and social injury. Besides, many people in general, and teenagers in particular, waste their lives and times doing things which Allah forbade them to do. A Muslim is always commanded to spend his time in useful things, cherish what benefits him in the present, plan for his coming days, and always make the reward of the Hereafter his/her top priority.
    Our advice to those young people is that they should fear Almighty Allah regarding their life and youthfulness. They are to bear in mind that they will be reckoned for these two and will be questioned what they have done with them. The Hadith says: "The feet of a son of Adam will not be removed (meaning he will be standing for reckoning until he is asked about the following five), unless he is questioned about five things: his life and how he has spent it, his youth time and how he managed it, his wealth from where and how it has been spent, and his actions how close or far they are from his knowledge."
    Man will be questioned about his life since it is the greatest Divine gift. Those, however, waste their life browsing these porn sites and thus spoil the greatest Divine blessing given to them, namely life. Man is granted this life not to spend it in quest for lusts and desires of the flesh, but to utilize it for the life of eternity, the Hereafter. In that eternal life everything is blessed, no poverty is there, no sickness, no senility. That eternal life is only for those who lead this life in straightness, uprightness and conformity with the laws of Allah.
    Let those young people, then, fear Allah regarding their youth. Youth is not a time for play or whimsical actions; rather, it is the time for fruitful work and action, ambition and perfection.
    The youth have always been the indicator of progress or decline of every nation or people. The more they stick to the dictates of virtue and uprightness, the greater their nation will become. The more they fall in the den of vice, the lower their nation will go. Thus, we have the necessity for right and moral upbringing of the youth.
    We advise all those young people to consider the value of their lives and stop wasting it in trivialities. They should bear in mind that death may overtake them all of a sudden. All people are like prisoners in a cell waiting for their execution. No one knows when, but they should prepare themselves for it. Almighty Allah says: [Every soul shall taste death.] (Al `Imran 3: 185)"
    The following working steps to fight porn addiction are for all, no matter their age:
    Step One: Admit that you can't give up.
    Admit that you are unable to get a grip on your consumption of pornography. It is uncontrollable. Every time you turn on the internet, go to the video store, turn on the television, you cannot say NO to yourself. You cannot NOT surf porn sites, or stop watching. You are no longer in control of your life.
    Step Two: Admit that only Allah can get you out of this.
    You know, after trying through so many ways to control your addiction and subsequently failing, that only Allah can help you out of this. You may have known it before, but you are convinced of it now without a shadow of a doubt.
    Step Three: Your life and death are all in Allah's control.
    Decide to put your complete trust in Allah, Who is in control of all aspects of your life and your death, and to bring this problem to Him and seek His help first and foremost.
    Step Four: Do a self-analysis.
    Do an honest, sincere, but often painful self-evaluation of your good points, bad points, and analyze your addiction, trying to understand how you reached this point.
    Step Five: Make a specific repentance to Allah.
    Admit to Allah and to yourself and to another trusted Muslim (if possible) exactly where you went wrong. Do not make a general request for repentance. Specifically list your mistakes and, in particular, your addiction to pornography.
    Step Six: Be open and ready to receive Allah's help to change.
    You know your sincere repentance must be followed by action. Be ready to do what is necessary to change, no matter how difficult or painful, even if it means not even watching television for the news or never surfing the Internet alone.
    Step Seven: Ask for the removal of faults.
    Ask Allah with sincerity, humility and regret to help you never repeat this action (looking at pornography) again and to help you avoid repeating sins committed in the past.
    Step Eight: Do a nightly self-evaluation.
    Every night do an honest self-evaluation of your behavior and be ready to admit your mistakes and thank Allah for the good you did that day.
    Step Nine: Make lots of du`a’ (supplication) and try to increase your taqwa (fear of Allah).
    Continue to pray five times a day, seeking closeness to Allah. Seek to be consciousness of Him wherever you are. Increase your reliance on Him to help you with this addiction to pornography and with all other matters in your life.
    Step Ten: Preach and practice.
    Don’t just "move on" after Allah has blessed you to get out of this addiction. Help others you know with this problem through regular contact and sincere advice, respecting the etiquette of enjoining the good and forbidding the evil. By the grace of Allah, helping others will help you maintain control over your addiction, and you will help another Muslim or another human being to get out of this destruction and misery
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    Asalamu Alaykum

    Astagfurullah fellow muslims actually do this? *goes off to puke* may Allah (swt) guide his slaves to the right path and set forth a seal in their hearts to close away the fitnah and sins the satan whispers in their hearts! ameen.

    p.s-i only reached half way, couldn't carry on!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ahlam
    Asalamu Alaykum

    Astagfurullah fellow muslims actually do this? *goes off to puke* may Allah (swt) guide his slaves to the right path and set forth a seal in their hearts to close away the fitnah and sins the satan whispers in their hearts! ameen.

    p.s-i only reached half way, couldn't carry on!
    forget the old days when watching porn was for the strange old man going aroudn the trashes.

    Nowdays porn is everywhere, fa'sha wal munkar is everywhere.

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    Asalamu Alaykum

    So what if it is everywhere? i don't see myself watching such filth alhamdulillah!...there is no justification to watching it!!!!!
    Fulaana’ Bint Fulaan

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    I don't watch that filth, but I do want a wife who will ehem tilth.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Baby Paw
    I don't watch that filth, but I do want a wife who will ehem tilth.
    you are a bright example of good mental health akhi....i mean...you don't live under the pressure of hiding your feelings....you know what i mean?
    My toughest fight was with my first wife.

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    Thanks, I think I do know what you mean.

    I guess I do wear my heart on my sleeve sometimes, and I ain't afraid to express my feelings.

    But I know what I like and make no secrets of it.

    To feel such a feeling is the most natural feeling of all, but Insha'Allah in the Garden of Jennah we shall able to enjoy what we abstain from in this dunya. But it will be pure and clean. May Allah cause it to be.

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    Good post because this is happening everywhere.. Wherever we go we are seeing women partially dressed and its seen to be a norm, unfortunately some muslims have also fallen into this way of thinking.. I know some view the 'hardcore' stuff but it all starts off with the little things (thats just my opinion)..

    The same way good things can come from little actions, the same can be said for bad.. they always start off as being minor or 'not that bad' and unfortunately lead to VERY bad things

    May Allah(swt) guide us all and help us refrain from such evils, Ameen.

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    I guess with most things it is down to the individual as to how they tackle and ultimately overcome such fitnah.

    Allah give us strength.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Baby Paw
    I don't watch that filth, but I do want a wife who will ehem tilth.
    I understand the need to expressing ur feelings and stuff,but in a mixed place,I dont see why u would say such things so openly.
    If I am not wrong we are supposed to show some modesty when in a debate we know can be watched by all and read by all and is a mixed place.So next time u feel such a need maybe u can do it in the brothers forum please

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    Stakhferallah!! ewww
    Maybe self-improvement isn't the answer.... Maybe self-destruction is the answer.

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    Outlandish, hush!

    If people got a problem with pornography, then they should take measures towards ridding themselves of such fitnah.

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    what do u mean hush so rude of u

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    Outlandish, don't cry, dry your eye.

    I don't think this issue is even up for debate.

    If individuals want to resort to viewing such smut, then the reformation process begins within themselves.

    When it comes to such matters, I don't really have the time for the finger wagging types.

    Attraction towards the act of intimacy and the beauty of it is a natural feeling.

    However, to be able to control such feelings and knowing to control your gaze and cool your carnal desire is the key as to whether or not you slip further and further down the well.

    The feeling is natural, but to give into and feed your lusts unlawfully is un-natural.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Baby Paw
    Outlandish, don't cry, dry your eye.

    When it comes to such matters, I don't really have the time for the finger wagging types.
    Sorry Baby Paw, but occasionally one needs to be "chastised".

    No one can disagree with this:

    Attraction towards the act of intimacy and the beauty of it is a natural feeling.
    However, this is where you lost points [see below], and outlandish summed it up perfectly.

    Originally Posted by Baby Paw
    I don't watch that filth, but I do want a wife who will ehem tilth.

    We are Muslims. We are to exhibit a certain adab and ahlaq which extends to the public domain. For you to say this, shows a lack of complete lack of both, especially when you are cognizant that sisters will read this. The fact that you even prefaced it, with an "ahem", suggests to me at least, that you know you crossed the line.

    Everyone has needs brother. But do we really need to read about them on a public forum?
    If someone praises one of them (the believer), he says, "I know myself better than others [know me], and my Lord is more knowledgeable of me than myself. O Allah! Do not take me to task for what they say, and make me better than what they think of me, and forgive me for those sins which they are unaware of."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Baby Paw
    Thanks, I think I do know what you mean.

    I guess I do wear my heart on my sleeve sometimes, and I ain't afraid to express my feelings.

    But I know what I like and make no secrets of it.

    To feel such a feeling is the most natural feeling of all, but Insha'Allah in the Garden of Jennah we shall able to enjoy what we abstain from in this dunya. But it will be pure and clean. May Allah cause it to be.
    Astagfurullah

    bro...

    first @ From Bukhari]] 8.799: Narrated Sahl bin Sa`d: The Prophet said, "Whoever guarantees me (the chastity of) what is between his legs (i.e. his private parts), and what is between his jaws (i.e., his tongue), I guarantee him Paradise." [[

    so plz control what comes outta ur mouth!

    and second!

    Astagfurullah

    but i agree, muslims are doing this nowadays!!!

    in pakistan, it is reported to be increasing at a very high rate and something must be done abt this filth!!! Astagfurullah

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    Urm yeah ok 1mran and Songbird.

    But thank you Songbird, at least you came with a constructive response.

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    its pornography money will benefits more? the problem is the underage will be effected lot. We adult also effected by this as well.

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    Re: Internet Porn - Worse than Crack?


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    Addiction to Pornography & Masturbation: Islamic Remedy

    Addiction to Porn & Masturbation: Islamic Remedy
    Shaykh Ahmad Kutty
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    If one has been addicted to an extremely pernicious habit that destroys your spiritual soul and thus leads to self-destruction, he must urgently summon his will power and take all the necessary steps in order to wean himself of it immediately. In order to empower one’s self to achieve this, one should seek counseling and therapy, preferably from those professionals in the field who are conscientious Muslims. If such Muslim professionals are not available, one can choose one from those who are ethically and morally conscious. It is important for him to wean himself of these pernicious habits. The consequences of persisting in them are simply unthinkable; they would undoubtedly corrode his spiritual soul and cause his spiritual death.

    Sins by their very nature are addictive, for it is in the very nature of the carnal self to seek pleasure in sins. As Al-Busiri has rightly said, “The carnal self is a like a baby; if you neglect him, he will grow up clinging on to the breast-milk forever, but if you wean him off, he will be weaned off.”

    I suggest a few tips which one can use to empower himself:

    1. Visualize and meditate on the ugliness of this heinous sin and conjure up images of hell fire as painted in the Qur’an and the Sunnah as many times as possible until such time that whenever you are tempted to visit such websites or read such magazines, the scenes of hell fire will be playing in your mind. Thus, even as you have associated this addiction with pleasure, you will come to associate it with pure pain and suffering.

    2. Convince yourself of the urgency of removing this malignant cancer from your life by taking all measures such as listing all the negative things about such habits, and listing the verses and traditions about the gravity of sins. Remember it is far more serious than cancer attacking your body, since your soul survives you even after your physical body has disintegrated in the earth.

    3. Imagine how terrible a loss you will be facing were you to die while being addicted to this most heinous sin.

    4. Seek strength from Allah by crying to Him for succor. But you can never seek the help of Allah unless you seek to establish connection with Him through regular Prayers, so never be slack in your Prayers.

    5. Schedule your time in such a way that you are never left with any time to think of such matters. Imam Ash-Shafi`i said, “If you don’t occupy your mind with good works, your carnal self will make you busy in bad deeds!”

    6. Surround yourself with spiritual and Islamic influences and virtually immerse yourself in them.

    7. Always hang around with good Muslims who are busy doing good works; join a halaqah (study circle) where spiritual training is imparted together with the study of Islam.

    8. Make your mind and tongue busy with dhikr (remembrance of Allah). Say the following words and others frequently:
    Subhan Allah; al-hamdu lillah; laa ilaha illa Allah; Allahu akbar; Wa laa hawla wala quwwata illa billah. Astaghfir Allaha al-azhim min kulli dhanbin wa atubu ilaihi. (Glory be to Allah; praise be to Allah; there is no god but Allah; Allah is Greatest. There is no power or strength except by the will of Allah. I ask forgiveness of Allah from all my sins and repent to Him.)

    9. Once you have been weaned of these pernicious habits, you should seriously consider marriage; marriage is the protection against temptations.

    I pray that the Beneficent Lord of Mercy save us all from the evil inclinations of our souls and make us hate disbelief, transgressions and sins; and may He endear to our hearts faith and good works. Amen.

    Sheikh Ahmad Kutty is a Senior Lecturer and an Islamic Scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, Ontario, Canada.

    Source: http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/S...ah%2FLSELayout

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    Ruling on masturbation and how to cure the problem
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    Question:
    I have a question which I am shy to ask but another sister who has come to Islam recently wants an answer to and I do not have an answer (with dilals from the Qur'an and Sunnah). I hope you can help and I hope Allah will for give me if it is inappropriate but as Muslims we should never be shy in seeking knowledge. Her question was "Is it permissible in Islam to masturbate?".
    May Allah increase us all in knowledge.

    Answer:
    Praise be to Allaah.

    Masturbation (for both men and women) is haraam (forbidden) in Islam based on the following evidence:

    First from the Qur’aan:

    Imam Shafi’i stated that masturbation is forbidden based on the following verses from the Qur’aan (interpretation of the meaning):

    "And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts, from illegal sexual acts). Except from their wives or (the captives and slaves) that their right hands possess, - for them, they are free from blame. But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors." 23.5-7 Here the verses are clear in forbidding all illegal sexual acts (including masturbation) except for the wives or that their right hand possess. And whoever seeks beyond that is the transgressor.

    "And let those who find not the financial means for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allah enriches them of His bounty." 24.33. This verse also clearly orders whoever does not have the financial means to marry to keep himself chaste and be patient in facing temptations (including masturbation) until Allah enriches them of His bounty.

    Secondly, from the sunnah of the Prophet (peace be upon him):

    Abdullaah ibn Mas’ood said, "We were with the Prophet while we were young and had no wealth whatsoever. So Allaah’s Messenger said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power." Bukhari:5066. The hadeeth orders men who are not able to marry to fast despite the hardship encountered in doing so, and not to masturbate despite the ease with which it can be done.

    There are additional evidences that can be cited to support this ruling on masturbation, but due to the limited space we will not go through them here. Allaah knows what is best and most correct.

    As for curing the habit of masturbation, we recommend the following suggestions:

    1) The motive to seek a cure for this problem should be solely following Allaah’s orders and fearing His punishment.

    2) A permanent and quick cure from this problem lies in marriage as soon as the person is able, as shown in the Prophet’s hadeeth.

    3) Keeping oneself busy with what is good for this world and the hereafter is essential in breaking this habit before it becomes second nature after which it is very difficult to rid oneself of it.

    4) Lowering the gaze (from looking at forbidden things such as pictures, movies etc.) will help suppress the desire before it leads one to commit the haraam (forbidden). Allaah orders men and women to lower their gaze as shown in the following two verses and in the Prophet’s hadeeth (interpretations of the meanings):

    "Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things) and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is all-aware of what they do. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things) and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.) ..... " 24.30-31

    Allaah’s messenger said: "Do not follow a casual (unintentional) look (at forbidden things) with another look." Al-Tirmidhi 2777. This is a general instruction by the Prophet to abstain from all that may sexually excite a person because it might lead him/her to commit the haraam (forbidden).

    5) Using one’s available leisure time in worshipping Allaah and increasing religious knowledge.

    6) Being cautious not to develop any of the medical symptoms that may result from masturbation such as weak eyesight, weak nervous system, and/or back pain. More importantly, feeling of guilt and anxiety that can be complicated by missing obligatory prayers because of the need to shower (ghusl) after every incidence of masturbation.

    7) Avoiding the illusion that some youth have that masturbation is permissible because it prevents them from committing illegal sexual acts such as fornication or even homosexuality.

    8) Strengthening one’s willpower and avoiding spending time alone as recommended by the Prophet when he said "Do not spend the night alone" Ahmad 6919.

    9) Following the Prophet’s aforementioned hadeeth and fast when possible, because fasting will temper one’s sexual desire and keep it under control. However, one should not overreact and swear by Allaah not to return to the act because if one does not honor one’s promise, one would be facing the consequences of not living up to one’s oath to Allaah. Also, note that medication to diminish one’s sexual desire is strictly prohibited because it might permanently affect one’s sexual ability.

    10) Trying to follow the Prophet’s recommendation concerning the etiquette of getting ready for bed, such as reading well-known supplications, sleeping on the right side, and avoiding sleeping on the belly (the Prophet forbade sleeping on the belly).

    11) Striving hard to be patient and chaste, because persistence will eventually, Allaah willing, lead to attaining those qualities as second nature, as the Prophet explains in the following hadeeth:
    "Whoever seeks chastity Allaah will make him chaste, and whoever seeks help from none but Allaah, He will help him, and whoever is patient He will make it easy for him, and no one has ever been given anything better than patience." Bukhari:1469.

    12) Repenting, asking forgiveness from Allaah, doing good deeds, and not losing hope and feeling despair are all prerequisites to curing this problem. Note that losing hope is one of the major sins punishable by Allaah.

    13) Finally, Allaah is the Most Merciful and He always responds to whoever calls on Him. So, asking for Allah’s forgiveness will be accepted, by His will.

    Wallahu a’lam. And Allah knows what is best and most correct.

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    Asslamo Allaikum,

    May Allah (SWT) assist whoever is suffering from this problem (Ameen).

    http://www.central-mosque.com/fiqh/masturbadv.htm


    By Mufti Ebrahim Desai

    Question:

    Assalam-O-Alaikum

    I want to know something. I'm 22 years old boy and unmarried. I am suffering from bad habit. When I saw girls specially girls with nice looks, I feel something in me and that compelled me to masturbate. Well this becomes quite difficult for me to control myself.

    You said in this sort of situation a person should perform "Nikkah". But it is impossible for me to perform "Nikkah". Because first I have to complete my studies than I'll marry. Tell me what really the solution of this problem. I am looking for prompt reply from you.

    Wassalaam
    Your brother

    Answer:

    Respected Brother-in-Islam

    Wa alaykumus salaam

    Allah Ta'ala has created man with innate carnal desires, and has made Nikah a lawful and dignified avenue to discharge these desires.

    Under normal circumstances, Nikah is Sunnah. If a man's sexual desires reach a stage where there is a strong fear that he will be involved in Zina (fornication), it will then be Waajib (compulsory) for him to make Nikah. At this juncture, shyness is no excuse. The man will have to approach his elders and request them to make arrangements for his Nikah.

    Nikah should not be delayed or avoided for fear of poverty and want. In the Ahaadith, we are told that Nikah creates Barakah in one's sustenance. Allah Ta'ala has taken it upon himself to assist that person who performs Nikah in order to protect his chastity. Nikah is a simple and inexpensive affair in Islam. The errant customs of societies have made it difficult for others. The solution is to abandon all such customs and conduct the Nikah strictly according to the Sunnah. Nikah, then will not be a burden, rather it will release one from a burden.

    The next step would be to guard the gaze. It is, thus, imperative to strictly guard the gaze. Where it is practical, avoid all such situations where ones gaze may fall on Ghayr Mahram (women not prohibited in Nikah) females. TV, books, magazines, internet, newspapers, should be shunned.

    Should one's gaze accidentally fall on some woman, immediately lower the gaze. This is not difficult. It only requires some courage and training. Some points that may assist in this are:

    1. Consider that this is not a calamity but rather an opportunity to win a big prize. It is a once in a life opportunity to strike a huge windfall. In the Hadith, we are told that a person, who, after having been tempted, lowers his gaze, Allah Ta'ala will grant him the sweetness of Imaan. What more can one ask for? The one who has the sweetness of Imaan has everything. Others strive their entire life for this very goal of finding the sweetness of Imaan. Here is the opportunity to acquire this in a split second. Therefore, lower the gaze and in your heart make this transaction with Allah Ta'ala that, 'O Allah! I am lowering my gaze for you. So you grant me your share of the deal, i.e. the sweetness of Imaan.

    2. By maintaining the gaze, one is in fact moving to the depths of Jahannum (hell). And by lowering the gaze, one is ascending the highest ranks of Jannah.

    3. Consider the reality of the woman at whom one is gazing. If she does not groom herself or apply perfume for one day, she will look dreadful and stink. For a number of days every month she has impurity pouring out of her. If one had to just go near such impurity, one will wish to flee. Imagine if she went to the toilet and forget to flush and, if you had to enter the toilet, will you still have the desire to gaze at her? If this woman does not have Deen, then by raising her arms and exposing her unsightly armpits, she will give out the smell of a skunk. These are some thoughts (although undignified), will assist one in taming the evil desire to look at women.

    4. Try as far as possible to remain in the state of Wudhu. In the Hadith, we are informed that Wudhu is the weapon of a Mu'min. With this weapon, it is much easier for him to thwart the onslaughts of Shaytaan.

    5. Try to remain in the company of the true friends of Allah Ta'ala. The true friends are those that, when you sit with them they remind you of Allah Ta'ala and their company produces a desire for the Aakhirah (hereafter). The company of such people is extremely effacious in imbuing the obedience of Allah Ta'ala, and in cultivating an abhorrence to sin.

    6. There must surely be somebody who you have a lot of respect for, e.g. your mother, father, grand parents, Ustaadh or Shaykh. Consider if that person was present, would you indulge in the evil of masturbating. The very fact that the presence of such a person will deter you is sufficient to show that you do have the strength to abstain from this evil. When the presence of such a person will be a cause for controlling one's desires, consider that fact that the Malaaikah (angels) are with you and are watching. Progress and consider that Allah Ta'ala is watching you. Do you not feel ashamed of His presence whereas you feel ashamed of the presence of a human being. Is this the degree of respect that Allah Ta'ala deserves?

    May Allah Ta'ala save you and every Ummati from this evil, Aameen.

    and Allah Ta'ala Knows Best

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    My husband has been looking at porn for years and it's taking a toll. We have children, and I do not want this obscenity in my home. I do whatever he wants when he wants and it makes no difference, so I am now even more upset because they are things I would not do.

    I am a practicing Muslim and I am trying to bring my children up in a strong Muslim household, but unfortunately not all marriages are fairy tales. He is a good provider but does not pray regularly - this also bothers me. Please help (I have talked to him many times and he promises to stop, but I always catch him out one way or another).

    Name of Counsellor`Abdul-Lateef Abdullah

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    In the name of Allah the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. May He bestow His peace and blessings on His messenger, Muhammad, his family, Companions, and all of those who follow them sincerely.



    As salamu 'alaykum,



    Dear sister, the problem that you have shared is by no means rare. The issue of pornography in Muslim homes is growing from our perspective. It is, therefore, important that you understand why perhaps your husband is having so much trouble following through on his promise to give up porn.



    Let me start by saying that pornography is haram, and it is also highly addictive. Clearly, from the way you describe your husband, he is addicted to porn and it is controlling his life. He must be approached the way one would approach a drug addict or one with an alcohol addiction. David Morgan, consultant clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst who counsels men with a history of sexual violence states:



    "… the more time you spend in this fantasy world, the more difficult it becomes to make the transition to reality. Just like drugs, pornography provides a quick fix, a masturbatory universe people can get stuck in. This can result in their not being able to involve anyone else" because sex is viewed as something that you can do not being a part of a relationship.”



    People – and Muslims in particular – need to know how detrimental and destructive pornography is to our spiritual and social lives and how serious a problem it can become, such as in your husband’s case. In fact, this is one of the tricky things about pornography – as David Morgan says above, it creates a world where one is able to please him or herself – outside of any relationship.



    Don’t assume that your husband doesn’t love you or his family because he hasn’t been able to stop this habit. Don’t even assume that he is a bad husband! If it weren’t for this habit, he may just have the potential to be a great husband. You and the rest of the family have to help him realize that he is destroying himself through this seemingly harmless pastime. Like I said, it has to be viewed as one would view any other type of addiction. It’s powerful, and it becomes more difficult to stop the more it one engages in it.

    "Extended exposure to pornography can have a whole raft of effects. By the time Nick Samuels had reached his mid-20s, it was altering his view of what he wanted from a sexual relationship. "I used to watch porn with one of my girlfriends, and I started to want to try things I'd seen in the films…" Married for 15 years, he admits he has carried the same sexual expectations into the marital bedroom. "There's been real friction over this: my wife simply isn't that kind of person. And it's only now, after all these years, that I'm beginning to move on from it. Porn is like alcoholism: it clings to you like a leech" - Edward Marriot.

    The last line says it all. Porn is like alcoholism. You have an addict living in your home, and he needs to accept and realize that he is an addict. There will be no healing in this situation unless he comes to this realization. He might lose his wife and his children due to this problem. He needs to hear this from someone else who is authoritative and can help him to understand the seriousness of the issue. Perhaps you might tell the imam from your local mosque (assuming you have one) about the situation and how dire it has become. Ask the imam to speak with your husband, perhaps, but only if you do not fear it resulting in a violent reaction from your husband. Your husband has to learn to live for Allah, for that is what is missing in his life. This can only come about through knowledge and the company of those that can teach this to him. The void of intimacy he feels is due to his lack of intimacy with Allah.

    Until you husband understands and realizes how serious this problem is, he will not change. Acceptance of the problem is the first step in getting him to change his ways. Try to find ways to get him to understand the seriousness of this problem. Do your homework using Internet, library and others to first understand the nature of the problem that pornography is and proceed from there by calling on Allah for help. Use those around you as resources – family members, friends, others – to help you as well. Your husband needs to first understand how this issue is impacting you and the family. Make use of family members and others that are influential in his life to help him change his beliefs and behaviors. It is very difficult to do it alone.

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    As-Salamu `alaykum wa Rahmatullah wa Barakatuh. I want to ask about Islam’s stance regarding seeing and watching sexual pictures and movies. I have heard that it is Makruh (detestable act). I am away from my family, and I am watching these movies to fulfill my desire rather than picking up girls.

    Name of Counsellor Ibrahim Desai

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    Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

    In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

    All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.

    First of all, we would like to thank you for the great confidence you have in us. We hope our efforts meet your expectations.

    In his response to your question, Sheikh Ibrahim Desai, the prominent Muslim scholar, states:

    “Respected brother in Islam, Allah says in the Glorious Qur’an, 'And come not even close to Zina. Indeed it is obscenity and a most evil way.' (Al-Isra’: 33)

    Such pictures, rather than curb or fulfill the desire, are designed to increase it inducing one to further prohibited acts and finally Zina (adultery or fornication). This is corroborated by the hadith of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) appearing in both Al-Bukhari and Muslim explaining the different categories of adultery: 'Lustful glances constitute Zina of the eyes. Listening (to flirtations or lewd talks or songs) constitute Zina of the ears. (Licentious and lewd) speech constitutes Zina of the tongue. The (lustful) grip of the hand constitutes its Zina, and the movement of the feet (toward the act of Zina) is likewise. The heart lusts and desires. These are then either fulfilled by the private parts or rejected.” (Riyad As-Saliheen)

    Moreover, these excesses sap and drain the Iman (Faith) of the believer so much so that the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said, 'The adulterer, during the act of Zina, is devoid of Iman.' (Al-Bukhari)

    In order to save your Iman from ruin, you are best advised to arrange residence for your wife with yourself. If this is not possible, you should attempt to spend time with your family regularly so that you are not driven to these extremes. May Allah the Almighty give you all assistance in this regard!”

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    Dear Sheikh! Our young people (may Allah grant them guidance) sometimes abuse the Internet by browsing the porn websites wasting time and effort and even disobeying Allah. What is your advice to those teenagers and others?

    Answer

    In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

    All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.

    Dear questioner! Thank you for this question, which reflects a true desire to get knowledge about Islam and its guidance that leads to happiness and peace of mind.

    In the first place, it is to be noted that logging in and browsing pornographic sites is forbidden because a Muslim is always commanded to lower his/her gaze, let alone give a loose rein to his/her hungry eye to look at the private parts of others. More importantly, such acts cause psychological and social injury. Besides, many people in general, and teenagers in particular, waste their lives and times doing things which Allah forbade them to do. A Muslim is always commanded to spend his time in useful things, cherish what benefits him in the present, plan for his coming days, and always make the reward of the Hereafter his/her top priority.

    The prominent Muslim scholar Sheikh Ahmad ibn Hamad Al-Khalili, the Grand Mufti of Oman states the following:

    First of all, my advice to those young people is that they should fear Almighty Allah regarding their life and youthfulness. They are to bear in mind that they will be reckoned for these two and will be questioned what they have done with them. The Hadith says: "The feet of a son of Adam will not be removed (meaning he will be standing for reckoning until he is asked about the following five), unless he is questioned about five things: his life and how he has spent it, his youth time and how he managed it, his wealth from where and how it has been spent, and his actions how close or far they are from his knowledge."

    Man will be questioned about his life since it is the greatest Divine gift. Those, however, waste their life browsing these porn sites and thus spoil the greatest Divine blessing given to them, namely life. Man is granted this life not to spend it in quest for lusts and desires of the flesh, but to utilize it for the life of eternity, the Hereafter. In that eternal life everything is blessed, no poverty is there, no sickness, no senility. That eternal life is only for those who lead this life in straightness, uprightness and conformity with the laws of Allah.

    Let those young people, then, fear Allah regarding their youth. Youth is not a time for play or whimsical actions; rather, it is the time for fruitful work and action, ambition and perfection.

    The youth have always been the indicator of progress or decline of every nation or people. The more they stick to the dictates of virtue and uprightness, the greater their nation will become. The more they fall in the den of vice, the lower their nation will go. Thus, we have the necessity for right and moral upbringing of the youth.

    I advise all those young people to consider the value of their lives and stop wasting it in trivialities. They should bear in mind that death may overtake them all of a sudden. All people are like prisoners in a cell waiting for their execution. No one knows when, but they should prepare themselves for it. Almighty Allah says: "Every soul shall taste death." (Al `Imran: 185)"

    The following working steps to fight porn addiction are for all, no matter their age:

    Step One: Admit that you can't give up.

    Admit that you are unable to get a grip on your consumption of pornography. It is uncontrollable. Every time you turn on the internet, go to the video store, turn on the television, you cannot say NO to yourself. You cannot NOT surf porn sites, or stop watching. You are no longer in control of your life.

    Step Two: Admit that only Allah can get you out of this.

    You know, after trying through so many ways to control your addiction and subsequently failing, that only Allah can help you out of this. You may have known it before, but you are convinced of it now without a shadow of a doubt.

    Step Three: Your life and death are all in Allah's control.

    Decide to put your complete trust in Allah, Who is in control of all aspects of your life and your death, and to bring this problem to Him and seek His help first and foremost.

    Step Four: Do a self-analysis.

    Do an honest, sincere, but often painful self-evaluation of your good points, bad points, and analyze your addiction, trying to understand how you reached this point.

    Step Five: Make a specific repentance to Allah.

    Admit to Allah and to yourself and to another trusted Muslim (if possible) exactly where you went wrong. Do not make a general request for repentance. Specifically list your mistakes and, in particular, your addiction to pornography.

    Step Six: Be open and ready to receive Allah's help to change.

    You know your sincere repentance must be followed by action. Be ready to do what is necessary to change, no matter how difficult or painful, even if it means not even watching television for the news or never surfing the Internet alone.

    Step Seven: Ask for the removal of faults.

    Ask Allah with sincerity, humility and regret to help you never repeat this action (looking at pornography) again and to help you avoid repeating sins committed in the past.


    Step Eight: Do a nightly self-evaluation.

    Every night do an honest self-evaluation of your behavior and be ready to admit your mistakes and thank Allah for the good you did that day.

    Step Nine: Make lots of du`a’ (supplication) and try to increase your taqwa (fear of Allah).

    Continue to pray five times a day, seeking closeness to Allah. Seek to be consciousness of Him wherever you are. Increase your reliance on Him to help you with this addiction to pornography and with all other matters in your life.

    Step Ten: Preach and practice.

    Don’t just "move on" after Allah has blessed you to get out of this addiction. Help others you know with this problem through regular contact and sincere advice, respecting the etiquette of enjoining the good and forbidding the evil. By the grace of Allah, helping others will help you maintain control over your addiction, and you will help another Muslim or another human being to get out of this destruction and misery.

    Excerpted, with slight modifications, from: www.soundvision.com

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    As-Salamu `alaykum! Is watching pornographic movies haram (prohibited)? Please answer me as soon as possible! Jazakum Allahu Khayran.

    Name of Counsellor: Group of Muftis

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    Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

    In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

    All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.

    Dear brother, we commend your eagerness to become well acquainted with Islam and its teachings, which is the way Allah has chosen for the welfare of His servants.

    In response to the question, Dr. Muzammil Siddiqi, former president of the Islamic Society of North America (ISNA), states:

    "Pornographic pictures and movies are haram (prohibited). Muslims should not watch, sell or make such movies. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) is reported to have said: 'The eyes commit adultery, the tongue commits adultery, the hands commit adultery, the feet commit adultery and then the private parts confirm it or deny it.' (Reported by Ahmad Ibn Hanbal)

    This means that watching pornographic movies, listening to such songs or singing them, using one’s hands and feet for this purpose, all these are sins that are related to Zina and then the final act of Zina takes place through haram intercourse.

    Of course haram intercourse is a major sin but that which leads to sin is also a sin. If one persists in a minor sin, it also becomes a major sin.

    Those who are involved in such addiction should repent sincerely and implore Allah earnestly to forgive them; they should pray to Allah to clean their hearts and give them the strength of resolution and protection from the Shaytan.

    It is better for a person who is suffering from this addiction to stop watching TV for some time, until he gains control over himself.

    In addition, one should not leave obligatory prayers if one is involved in this sin. If one is involved in one sin, this does not mean that one should start other sins as well. One should try to get rid of sins, not to increase them. Sometimes, people make promise to Allah and repent and then, under the influence of the Shaytan, they break their promises. It is for this reason that it is recommended that one should move from the place of sin or do something extra to get out of this vicious circle. It may be good to disconnect and put away the TV and VCR. This will remind one more about the promise made to Allah.

    As far as the punishment is concerned, I can say that sin is a serious matter and one should not take it lightly. Only Allah knows what will be the punishment. May Allah protect us from sins and save us all from His wrath and punishment, Amen!"

    Also on this issue, the prominent Muslim scholar,Sheikh `Abdul-Khaleq Hasan Ash-Shareef, adds:

    "The person who watches such pornographic movies should repent to Allah sincerely and should not mosey around boasting about such nasty habit. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) is reported to have said: 'All of my Ummah would not be punished except for those who crow over their sins (i.e., sins they commit in private).'

    Hence, I advise those who are involved in such a sin to repent sincerely to Allah, keeping in mind that if one sincerely repents, Allah Almighty will accept his repentance and reward him generously."

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    As-Salamu`alaykum! I recently got married, but I am in a different town right now, away from my wife because of her job and my studies. As I get sexually frustrated, is masturbation allowed in my case? I do not want to fall into the abyss of sin, but I also want to relieve my sexual tension. Please let me know if masturbation is allowed in Islam. Is there any Islamic cure so that a Muslim could get rid of such a bad habit?

    Name of Counsellor: Yusuf Al-Qaradawi

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    Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.

    In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

    All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.

    Dear brother, we commend your eagerness to become well acquainted with Islam and its teachings, which is the way Allah has chosen for the welfare of His servants.

    In his book, The Lawful and the Prohibited in Islam, Sheikh Yusuf Al-Qaradawi states:

    "The majority of Muslim scholars consider masturbation haram (unlawful). Imam Malik bases his judgment on the verse: 'Those who guard their sexual organs except with their spouses or those whom their right hands possess, for (with regard to them) they are without blame. But those who crave something beyond that are transgressors.' (Al-Mu'minoon:5-7)

    Imam Malik argued that the masturbator is one of those who ‘crave something beyond that.’

    On the other hand, it is reported that Imam Ahmad Ibn Hanbal regarded semen as an excretion of the body like other excrete, and permitted its expulsion the same way blood letting is permitted. Ibn Hazm holds the same view. However, the Hanbali jurists permit masturbation only under two conditions: first, the fear of committing fornication or adultery, and second, not having the means to marry.

    We are inclined to accept the opinion of Imam Ahmad in a situation in which there is sexual excitation and danger of committing the haram [adultery]. For example, a young man has gone abroad to study or work, thereby encountering many temptations which he fears he will be unable to resist, may resort to this method of relieving sexual tension provided he does not do it excessively or make it a habit. Yet, better than this is the Prophet's advice to the Muslim youth who is unable to marry, namely, that he seeks help through frequent fasting, for fasting nurtures will-power, teaches control of desires, and strengthens the fear of Allah. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) is reported to have said, 'O youth, whoever of you is able to marry, let him marry, for it spares one looking at what one should not, or lapsing in adultery. And if he cannot marry, let him observe fasting, for it is a shield against evil.' (Reported by Muslim.)"

    Thus, we do advise you to have your wife with you and not to stay alone. If not, i.e., if there is no way to have her with you and there is a dire necessity to be away from her, then you should make use of the following:

    1- Observing fasting, because it bolsters one's faith, preserves chastity, and protects one from evil thoughts.

    2- Observing moderation in eating and drinking in order to avoid stimulating your desire.

    3- Keeping away from anything that is sexually stimulating, such as pornographic pictures, erotic films and love songs.

    4- Choosing good and righteous friends.

    5- Keeping yourself busy in worship and spiritual acts.

    6- Interacting with activities of the society in such a way that it keeps you away from thinking about sex.

    7- Avoiding gatherings and places that bring men and women physically close to each other.

    8- Trying to admire natural things such as flowers and beautiful scenery, which do not stimulate one sexually, instead of admiring girls and women.

    If you find the previous things useful, then it is forbidden for you to masturbate. However, if you find that you cannot relieve yourself except through masturbation, and you fear you may lapse in adultery if you do not masturbate, then the juristic rule which states that the lesser evil is to be suffered in order to fend off the major one applies to you, as masturbation is deemed to be the lesser of two evils in this case. But, we would like to stress that this may be done only in the case of dire necessity, when all solutions prove to be of no avail.

    May Allah guide you to the straight path and direct you to that which pleases Him, Amen.

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    What is the Fatwa on masturbation in Islam?

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    In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

    All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.

    Dear brother in Islam, we would like to thank you for showing keenness on learning the teachings of Islam, and we appreciate the great confidence you have in us. We hope our efforts meet your expectations, yet we apologize for the late reply.

    With regard to your question, it is very important as it touches a problem most of Muslim youth, who are yet to get married, are facing due to the great deal of temptations surrounding them. As you know, masturbation is perfectly acceptable in non-Muslim societies and is practiced by large number of people: young, single, old, and even married. However, the situation is different in Islam. The ruling on masturbation is governed by some considerations that might change the ruling from one person to another.

    The late prominent scholar Sheikh Mustafa Az-Zarqa, may Allah bless his soul, has analyzed the issue of masturbation in detail and, after discussing the different views of scholars and jurists regarding it, issued the following fatwa:

    “The only legal text used as evidence for the prohibition of masturbation is Allah’s saying describing the believers: “Those who guard their sexual organs except with their spouses or those whom their right hands possess, for (with regard to them) they are without blame. But those who crave something beyond that are transgressors.” (Al-Mu'mun: 5-7)

    Commenting on this verse, some scholars hold the view that this habit (masturbation) falls under the category of those who seek fulfillment of their sexual desires outside the framework of marriage, and as such they are deemed transgressors. Those scholars put masturbation under the list of the forbidden categories of sexual fulfillment since it constitutes transgression of boundaries. This view is held by the Shafi`ites (followers of the Shafi`i school of Fiqh).

    However, some other scholars believe that the transgression meant in the aforementioned verse refers to extra-marital relations and what falls under the category of Zina (adultery). According to this view, masturbation does not fall under the meaning of this verse. This view is very close to the opinion held by the Hanafites (followers of the Hanafi school), who maintain that masturbation is basically forbidden, but it may be permissible under the following conditions:

    1. if the person is unmarried,

    2. if he or she fears that without masturbation he/she will commit Zina, and

    3. if the masturbation here is, rather than fulfilling a sexual desire, just to release the sexual tension resulting from stimulation.

    I conclude that the general principles of Shari`ah go against this habit, because it is not the normal way of fulfilling sexual desire; however it is a deviation – and that is enough to condemn it, even though this act does not fall under the category of absolute prohibition like Zina. However, the law of necessity, which is one of the principles of Shari`ah, should also apply here. For example, if someone is afraid that he would commit a greater sin like Zina or he will be harmed by some psychological disorders, then the ban on masturbation would be relaxed just to remove the hardship, based on the Shari`ah principle that states that “necessity is judged according to the circumstances that warrant it.”

    That means going to the extreme in masturbating is not permissible in all cases, for the following two reasons:

    1. it would be resorted to not as a case of extreme necessity to release the tension and the pain resulting from sexual arousal, but to fulfill the sexual desire, and

    2. it is harmful to one's health, and whatever is physically harmful is not allowed in Shari`ah, according to the consensus of the Muslim scholars.

    In addition to the two conditions stipulated by the Hanafites, I would add two more conditions based on the general rules of Shari`ah:

    1. the difficulty of getting married, and

    2. The inability to fast.

    As we know, the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, has advised those who cannot afford marriage to fast, saying: "O youth, whoever of you is able to marry, let him marry, for it prevents forbidden stares or lapsing in adultery. And if he cannot marry, let him observe fasting, for it is a shield against evil." (Sahih Al-Bukhari, English Translation, Vol. 7, Book 62, Hadith no. 4; Sahih Muslim, Book 008, Hadith no. 3231)

    This is the view I believe to be the most correct concerning this issue.”

    Do keep in touch. If you have any other question, don't hesitate to write to us.

    Allah Almighty knows best.

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    Asalamo-alai-kum,

    I've been masturbating ever since I reached puberty. At first, I didn't know if it was wrong. But, every time I did it some thing bad will happen to me; I will get into a very embarrassing--rather humiliating situation. I'm sure, those who commit this sin know that they will be punished by humiliating punishment soon.

    Nonetheless, shaitaan was after me, and so, I used to make excuses and kufr, saying to myself it's ok to do it...

    Let me cut it short: Allah gave me many chances to come back and repent, but I insisted on committing this sin, even though, I tried some what. But, my effort was week.
    I committed this sin for years and the punishment of Allah increased. The worst punishment was that my heart got hardened and diseased. Later, I became impotent. There are many other punishments I've been inflicted with, and I'm afraid the worst is yet to come, May Allah forgive me.

    What I've been inflicted with, is no doubt, a befitting punishment in this world, and in the hear after is the real punishment--May Allah save me from that.

    The only reason I am posting this, is so, the young Muslims may take an ibra, a lesson, from my story.
    Take the words of the Prophet (saw) before it's too late--when you'll want to return, but going back may be almost impossible: (paraphrase) "I guarantee Jannah to whoever protects what is between his jaws (tongue) and what is between his legs."

    Fear Allah before it's too late. Save your privates and tongue at any cost. I think if there is really no way out for you, then even smoking (only as much as required) is better than masturbating. If it is half a cigarette a week that calms your desires (and you have no other options like marriage, or living in a better environment etc) then I believe it is better than if you masturbate. Allah knows best. Best to check with a scholar before you take my advice.
    If there is any truth I said it's from Allah, and if there is any falsehood then it is from me or shaitaan.

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    Jazakallah khayr brother but i dont think you should advice people to do a haram (smoking) in order to replace a haram. What has been recommended from the sunnah if people needed to reduce desire & keep away from this fasting, not smoking.

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    Salaams,

    I don't know if this is the correct way to ask a q.. but here goes.

    My husband and I are living apart, due to his studies and mine. Sometimes he calls me when he feels the desire to be intimate, and asks me to....help him masturbate. Is this allowed? I don't want to refuse him in case that means I'm not fulfilling my duty as a wife. What should I do?

    Plus, I have some medical conditions that sometimes cause it to either unable to have sex, or just too painful, and he masturbates to relieve his tension. Is this allowed?

    Another q. this is very embarrasing...my husband insists that I practise oral sex (fellatio) on him...I'm very reluctant to do this, but he gets dissapointed when I refuse. I don't know even if this is allowed. Please advice me what to do!!!

    Jazaakallah

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    ws sister "embarrased"

    ur not allowed 2 help him masturbate over the phone. i have seen fatwas with this specific question and the answer was no because it doesnt matter that u are on the end of the fone, what he is actually doing is masturbation by himself with his own hand which is not allowed
    about the medical condition maybe it changes the circumstances but if you are with him, and the reason why you cant have sex is because of medical condition etc, rather than him masterbating which is not allowed, you should do it for him because the same thing done by u rather than him becomes halal
    oral sex there is a difference of opinion but if ur doing it then u have to avoid getting nething in ur mouth because this is an impure substance to consume. so either do it with a condom or do it without but stop before the end & finish it with a different method. if u dnt want to do it try to explain to him that ur not comfortable with it, if u dnt agree to it i have read that this does NOT come underneath the category of refusing him sex because that refers to actual intercourse not referring to any other things which he wanted to do in the bedroom so he cant force you i think. but if he has the habit of masterbation try to help him out of it, by not letting him keep the excuse that u are not able to have sex for him or do anything for him at all. u are his means from keeping away from haraam so atleast find some kind of a method insha allah
    sorry if the advice is a bit much (too detailed :S)

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    guard yourself

    bismillah arrahman arraheem
    asslamualikum
    sex is a need that Allah has created in us just as the need to eat, drink, sleep and so on. and Allah, our creator, has provided us the lawful means by which to satisfy all our needs.
    but i believe that in todays world there is not a single facet of life in which the shaitaan and his followers have not introduced or trying to introduce the element of sex. in all aspects of our daily lives we are confronted, more than ever before, with the ideology that you should satisfy your needs when, where and how you see fit, for this is the new age, where you shouldnt be bound by any laws that restrict the most basic of human rights, live and let live.
    this wave of corrupt thought has unfortunately hit, and hit hard, in muslim societies, enlightning the minds of young muslims with all such "freedoms" that will ultimately lead to our demise. the problem with corrupt thought is that it can so easily be disguised. it is the grey area where man slips most.
    we should therefore guard ourselves, our family, our children against this wave and realise that all is not well, it is not a sunny day, as our enemy has made it to appear. medidate on this and use the Quran as your guide.
    May Allah help us gain guidance.
    wassalam.

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    What is the islamic ruling of masterbation?

    salam;

    cn sm1 posT the rulings and teachings of masterbation, and what one has to do if he or she commited this act?

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    Re: What is the islamic ruling of masterbation?

    Question:
    I have a question which I am shy to ask but another sister who has come to Islam recently wants an answer to and I do not have an answer (with dilals from the Qur'an and Sunnah). I hope you can help and I hope Allah will for give me if it is inappropriate but as Muslims we should never be shy in seeking knowledge. Her question was "Is it permissible in Islam to masturbate?".
    May Allah increase us all in knowledge.

    Answer:
    Praise be to Allaah.

    Masturbation (for both men and women) is haraam (forbidden) in Islam based on the following evidence:

    First from the Qur’aan:

    Imam Shafi’i stated that masturbation is forbidden based on the following verses from the Qur’aan (interpretation of the meaning):

    "And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts, from illegal sexual acts). Except from their wives or (the captives and slaves) that their right hands possess, - for them, they are free from blame. But whoever seeks beyond that, then those are the transgressors." 23.5-7 Here the verses are clear in forbidding all illegal sexual acts (including masturbation) except for the wives or that their right hand possess. And whoever seeks beyond that is the transgressor.

    "And let those who find not the financial means for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allah enriches them of His bounty." 24.33. This verse also clearly orders whoever does not have the financial means to marry to keep himself chaste and be patient in facing temptations (including masturbation) until Allah enriches them of His bounty.

    Secondly, from the sunnah of the Prophet (peace be upon him):

    Abdullaah ibn Mas’ood said, "We were with the Prophet while we were young and had no wealth whatsoever. So Allaah’s Messenger said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power." Bukhari:5066. The hadeeth orders men who are not able to marry to fast despite the hardship encountered in doing so, and not to masturbate despite the ease with which it can be done.

    There are additional evidences that can be cited to support this ruling on masturbation, but due to the limited space we will not go through them here. Allaah knows what is best and most correct.

    As for curing the habit of masturbation, we recommend the following suggestions:

    1) The motive to seek a cure for this problem should be solely following Allaah’s orders and fearing His punishment.

    2) A permanent and quick cure from this problem lies in marriage as soon as the person is able, as shown in the Prophet’s hadeeth.

    3) Keeping oneself busy with what is good for this world and the hereafter is essential in breaking this habit before it becomes second nature after which it is very difficult to rid oneself of it.

    4) Lowering the gaze (from looking at forbidden things such as pictures, movies etc.) will help suppress the desire before it leads one to commit the haraam (forbidden). Allaah orders men and women to lower their gaze as shown in the following two verses and in the Prophet’s hadeeth (interpretations of the meanings):

    "Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things) and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is all-aware of what they do. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things) and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.) ..... " 24.30-31

    Allaah’s messenger said: "Do not follow a casual (unintentional) look (at forbidden things) with another look." Al-Tirmidhi 2777. This is a general instruction by the Prophet to abstain from all that may sexually excite a person because it might lead him/her to commit the haraam (forbidden).

    5) Using one’s available leisure time in worshipping Allaah and increasing religious knowledge.

    6) Being cautious not to develop any of the medical symptoms that may result from masturbation such as weak eyesight, weak nervous system, and/or back pain. More importantly, feeling of guilt and anxiety that can be complicated by missing obligatory prayers because of the need to shower (ghusl) after every incidence of masturbation.

    7) Avoiding the illusion that some youth have that masturbation is permissible because it prevents them from committing illegal sexual acts such as fornication or even homosexuality.

    8) Strengthening one’s willpower and avoiding spending time alone as recommended by the Prophet when he said "Do not spend the night alone" Ahmad 6919.

    9) Following the Prophet’s aforementioned hadeeth and fast when possible, because fasting will temper one’s sexual desire and keep it under control. However, one should not overreact and swear by Allaah not to return to the act because if one does not honor one’s promise, one would be facing the consequences of not living up to one’s oath to Allaah. Also, note that medication to diminish one’s sexual desire is strictly prohibited because it might permanently affect one’s sexual ability.

    10) Trying to follow the Prophet’s recommendation concerning the etiquette of getting ready for bed, such as reading well-known supplications, sleeping on the right side, and avoiding sleeping on the belly (the Prophet forbade sleeping on the belly).

    11) Striving hard to be patient and chaste, because persistence will eventually, Allaah willing, lead to attaining those qualities as second nature, as the Prophet explains in the following hadeeth:
    "Whoever seeks chastity Allaah will make him chaste, and whoever seeks help from none but Allaah, He will help him, and whoever is patient He will make it easy for him, and no one has ever been given anything better than patience." Bukhari:1469.

    12) Repenting, asking forgiveness from Allaah, doing good deeds, and not losing hope and feeling despair are all prerequisites to curing this problem. Note that losing hope is one of the major sins punishable by Allaah.

    13) Finally, Allaah is the Most Merciful and He always responds to whoever calls on Him. So, asking for Allah’s forgiveness will be accepted, by His will.

    Wallahu a’lam. And Allah knows what is best and most correct.



    Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid
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    Re: What is the islamic ruling of masterbation?

    if it prevents you from committing fornication/adultery then it is preferred to those.

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    Re: What is the islamic ruling of masterbation?

    Here's some things I heard:

    1) Masturbation is not said at all in the Qu'ran.

    2) Animals masturbate, so it's natural.

    3) If one doesn't release semen within two weeks, there starts to be medical problems with...that area. Therefore, masturbation is healthy as long as it's not excessive.
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